Other's Reaction To Your Growth

June 10, 2019

When we work on ourselves and begin to grow, it’s natural for dynamics to shift with those around us.
From our perspective we’re learning to be happier, more loving and better versions of ourselves
therefore it makes sense that everyone would embrace this and be happy for us. Sometimes that’s the
case and things move along very well. Of course, if there were nothing to learn here, I wouldn’t be
writing this blog, so I’ll lean into the other option…when people aren’t embracing our growth.
In this case it’s best to remember a few things, one of which is if someone is reacting negatively to our
growth, it’s unconscious. No one would consciously choose to be negative about something positive.
This is proof that it’s something going on inside of them and has nothing to do with your growth (even if
it looks like that or is verbally stated as such).


Another thing to remember is we each live our lives from our own perspectives. It’s impossible to
completely climb into another person’s shoes and understand fully why they are behaving a certain way.
Usually they don’t fully understand it themselves. You see we are all the director and main actor in our
own play. We unconsciously get used to people playing certain roles within our play and when someone
comes along changing their role in your play without your agreement…there can be some animosity.
Sometimes people spend a tremendous amount of energy trying to help someone and really enjoy the
role of helper. It makes them feel good about themselves. But what happens when their project
actually changes and they’re not needed anymore? Or perhaps the person that’s been sad and troubled
for many years becomes the one enthusiastic and full of advice? This is a strange dynamic shift and can
take some time to get used to.


Another common dynamic is when people around you in similar situations are used to complaining with
you about being a victim of life. There’s a comradery amongst people on a sinking ship. When one
starts to rise above their circumstances it begins to threaten their way of life. Now it’s harder to
maintain that it’s not their fault. They basically have two options:


1-to do what you’re doing and completely change how they view life


2-tear apart what you’re doing and stay where they are


It would seem that everyone would want to do what you’re doing and become happier…especially now
that you’ve done it and have felt all the goodness that comes with it. But remember how you thought
and felt 6 months before your journey started…not ready. They simply aren’t where you are yet and
often it’s easier to continue on the victim train than it is to change absolutely everything and wake up.
There is a comfort to where they are and change isn’t easy even when the other side is better.
It’s okay, if you treat them with love and distance yourself when necessary, you can become a beacon of
hope if they ever are ready. If you judge them and put them down, you’re just as bad as they are. Rise
up, be the change you wish to see in the world. Be love. Be the example of unconditional love that they
can feel even if they can’t see it yet. If and when they are ready, they’ll know who to come to. Often
times we’re the only example of true spirituality someone will ever see up close and personal.

 

 

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